10 Life Lessons On How To Find Your Why NOW & Achieve Ultimate Success – Lesson 7 (part 1)
October 27, 2010 by John Di Lemme
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The Growing Why
Your Why is a burning desire. It is the driving force that makes you achieve your ultimate goals. As your life progresses and your horizons expand, your Why will also naturally progress. Here’s an important principle: Your Why expands as you grow.
With your Why growing and expanding, it is very likely you will notice more changes in your life. All of the sudden, you change your habits and you are more interested in investing more time in your personal development. Personal development is the key to advancing yourself mentally, physically and socially in order to achieve your Why.
The Power of Other People
As your Why expands and becomes more developed, you will find yourself growing past some old friends and your current lifestyle. Just visualize adding a drop of water to a glass everyday. Soon the glass will overflow, and you will need a bigger glass. It’s the same with your Why. You will out grow the everyday normalcy. Your Why will start spilling over into every part of your life, and you will start to reach for bigger and better things. It may be painful or difficult, but creating change in your life always provokes change in your friends. It often takes courage and resolve to make those changes especially when it means that you must leave behind people that you have known all of your life. Many times, those same people just fall away when they see the new you. However it happens, change will always bring new friends and lose some old ones.
One of the principles in Napoleon Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich” is to let great people shape your life. That principle will always carry us away from people who are not great and will only keep us from achieving our Why. It is very likely that you will decide to just stop associating with certain people in your life. Some people have the unfortunate power to disconnect us from achieving our Why; therefore, we must make the decision to stop allowing those people to steal our dreams.
An accomplished and successful musician once said, “Critics are only remembered for what they failed to understand.” Don’t allow the critics in your life to kill your dream. Too many people have lost their dreams, because they have surrendered to the challenges that life threw at them. Those same challenges are often thrown by people that don’t understand and simply can’t hear the music in their own heart.
10 Life Lessons On How To Find Your Why NOW & Achieve Ultimate Success – Lesson 6 (part 4)
October 22, 2010 by John Di Lemme
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Just as the butterfly must struggle to shed its cocoon, we all have to struggle to climb out of failure and into success. In fighting its way out of the cocoon, the butterfly develops muscles that it will need to fly. I once heard a man describe trying to help a butterfly get free of its cocoon. He took a knife and cut the cocoon away. The butterfly came out, but then died right before his eyes! That butterfly needed – and we all need – the struggle to achieve. The great Russian novelist Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn once said, “Even biology teaches us that habitual well-being is not favorable to life.” We all need to struggle our way into success. Striving to succeed will always be part of achieving your Why. When we don’t have struggles or obstacles to overcome, we become complacent, lazy and passive.
My coaching student that wrote the Why statement that you read earlier certainly understands that. That’s the reason that she began her Why by saying, “The reason why I am dealing with all the challenges. . . ” She didn’t flinch at the possibility of obstacles. She embraced them. Just settle it in your mind that you will have challenges, you will have obstacles and you will have hurdles—no question about it!
That same champion student also uses the words, “I actually see…” This is a critically important key in the process of overcoming the problems. You must SEE yourself successful, and you must SEE yourself achieving your Why. That’s why many successful sports trainers make their students visualize the golf ball rolling into the cup, the basketball swooshing the net, the arrow hitting the core of the target, etc. If you see it, you can do it. If you can’t see yourself (visualize) achieving your Why, then your belief in your Why is not strong enough. The discovery of your Why is a great milestone in your life. You will change, and you will improve yourself. Your interests will change, and you will expand. You will enjoy life even more than you already do. In order for this to happen, you must invest in yourself, face the problems and see yourself achieving your Why.
10 Life Lessons On How To Find Your Why NOW & Achieve Ultimate Success – Lesson 6 (part 3)
October 22, 2010 by John Di Lemme
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What’s the next step? Let me give you another million dollar tip that will catapult your belief in your Why. Here it is. Read your Why Card before going to bed and meditate on it for a few moments. Go over the day and ask yourself, “What did I do today that will assist me in the achievement of my Why?” Then ask yourself, “What can I do tomorrow to improve my daily championship action steps that will ultimately lead to the achievement of my Why?”
Write all these things down in your personal Why journal. Just like the 3×5 index card, use a simple notebook for your Why journal. A Why journal is a tool that you can keep on your night stand or near your bed. Every night, jot your answers to those two questions.
1. “What did I do today that will assist me in the achievement of my Why?”
2. “What can I do tomorrow to improve my daily championship action steps that will ultimately lead to the achievement of my Why?”
These Champion habits will pulverize old, unproductive behaviors. These habits will increase your success pace drastically! I know many of you are saying to yourself, “But, I don’t have time to read the Why Card in the morning and at night.”
Let me ask you a heart-wrenching question, “Are you committed to achieving your Why in life?” If so, then you will soon realize that the amount time you invest reading your Why Card every morning and every night will determine when and if you achieve your Why in life.
The Purpose of Problems
The number of obstacles that you face in life will lay the foundation for massive growth. One of the most important principles to understand as you build your future is that problems have a purpose. A wise man once said, “The doorway to success is camouflaged by problems.” That’s why there are challenges, obstacles and hurdles between you and your Why. That’s the reason I often say and even wrote in the introduction to this book that my stuttering disability turned into a precious gift in my life. It became the driving force behind me creating the most powerful success key – “Find Your Why.” Success is always hidden by challenges and problems. In solving them, you acquire skills that you need to be a leader.
10 Life Lessons On How To Find Your Why NOW & Achieve Ultimate Success – Lesson 6 (part 1)
October 21, 2010 by John Di Lemme
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Unleashing Your Why in Life
By now, I’m sure you’re well on the way to finding or perhaps you have already found that spark inside your heart. That spark is what ignites that roaring fire of desire deep inside of you. I salute you! You’re doing something that most people never achieve. You’re discovering your ultimate Why in life. Writing your Why is a process, and you can rewrite it as many times as you need in the beginning phase. Every great accomplishment starts with one step towards its achievement.
The Incredible Power of a 3×5 Card
There is one more secret that I have to tell you before we continue our discussion on the Why. You are likely wondering “how” you will achieve your Why. I believe that 95% of your success will be a direct result of the power behind your Why and only 5% will come from how you will actually accomplish it. In other words, don’t worry so much about the how, just keep focusing on the Why at this point. My own experience is that if your Why is strong enough, then you will never have to worry about the how. Strangely enough, the how will present itself. I’ve seen it happen many times. Now, let’s talk about the power of your Why. The way for you to unleash the explosive power locked inside of your Why is simple. Grab a 3×5 index card. I’ll say that once again. Grab a 3×5 index card. This is a million dollar tool, but it is so
simple that most people won’t do it! You could have expensive software that will allow you to create a fancy, multi-colored, seven-dimension, micro-chip implanted Why card. You could have every fancy tech gadget under the sun, but this little 3×5 index card will change your life. It will massively change your life! At the top of the index card write “My Why Card” in big letters. Then, write your personal Why statement on this card beginning with “My Why is.” After you’ve done that, you must commit to reading it over and over and over again! The power of the “Why Card” lies in its mobility. You can take it everywhere you go, and you will never lose focus on the achievement of your Why.
With every challenge or obstacle in life that you face, simply face it head on and READ YOUR WHY CARD. Start internalizing your Why in your mind, your heart and your spirit. It will change your life forever, and you will never go back to that point you were at before you found your Why.
10 Life Lessons On How To Find Your Why NOW & Achieve Ultimate Success – Lesson 5 (part 4)
October 20, 2010 by John Di Lemme
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My Why is…
“I am dealing with all the challenges of building my business today, because my WHY is to spend more time with my family, provide for my children’s education, and have the finances needed to take regular family vacations and be a mentor to my kids. I am donating/tithing a percentage of my earnings to my church or favorite organization. I am making a difference today as a Profit Producing, Fear Demolishing, Record Breaking, Action Taking, Eye Opening, Mind Blowing, Fired Up and Laser Focused Millionaire Champion.”
That’s a very powerful Why Card, but the first day that I sat with this individual she didn’t say all that. I had her write down the three magical words – My Why is. She took those three words home and let her heart do the rest, and that is how she ultimately wrote the magnificent Why that you just read. After she wrote her Why and internalized it, her business grew threefold.
Now we have expanded on developing a Why, let’s dig a little deeper in your own Why in life. Let’s crystallize your initial thoughts a little more by rewriting your Why. That’s right, do it again and write from your heart.
